Malevion wrote:Most women are intrinsically cowardly and will always avoid facing up to something if they can.
Wrong. If there's anything, it's a difference of culture.
This is also why females seem so manipulative from a male point of view.
(Please note: It's very possible I'll come off seeming like a sexist cynic. While the cynic part is probably no too far off, I'm a lot less sexist than may be indicated below, but I'll have to use the big tar brush to underscore my points I'm afraid.)
Females play mindgames. It's what they do.
Basic interaction between females appearantly is dominated by a mutitude of feints double feints and plain lies. The truth-value of a statement is often less important than who's saying it, and how it's being said.
Teenage girls seem especially prone to this (though I have yet to figure out exatly why).
Thus it should come as no surprise that they play mindgames with males as well. Remember, when the boys are just starting trying to ball up to talking to the girls, the girls are likewise learning to interact with boys, and what is more logical and reasonable than taking known interaction patterns and applying them in new circumstances?
Thus females, especially teenaged girls, will play mindgames with you for all they are worth. The ones that don't/won't, will usually be the outsiders, the less popular ones. They are the ones that (appearantly) play the game less often and less well among their own, and so might find alternative interactions, that can be applied to males as well.
For this reason (and others, ofcourse) I tend to prefer slightly geeky girls.
To be honest, I'm surprised at how many people saying "Oh, she said no, well that's too bad, just forget about her then."
My suggestion would've been to keep talking, as if nothing had happened.
Alot can change before the dance, and as a friend of mine once put it "It doesn't matter who she's going
to the dance with, it's who she's
leaving with that matters."
If she isn't interested in talking, you will know in a month or so. A littel more, a little less, depending on her style and your powers of perception.
If she's only interested in talking, and nothing more, you might have a new female friend. Yes, it hurts when you wanted there to be more, and she's crying on your shoulder about her looser of a boyfriend, but not that badly.
And the fact that you can be seen to talk to her will indicate to other girls that you're not only after getting in their panties (true or not), which can give you an edge later.
Finally, some girls consider such questions another opening for manipulations. "If he really cares, he'll keep trying" is a fantazy that is unfortunatly only too common. It's unfortunate because it ties in with that infernal "playing hard to get"-meme, which has led to inummerable rapes and violations in the past, but that's neither here nor there, and not at all on topic.
In the later case, keep talking, and who knows, this important thing that she's supposed to do instead of going to that dance might just get cancelled.
Just be aware of the hairfine line between "paing attention" and "being a stalker", and know that it must not be crossed. Ever.